You’re done. You’ve used every excuse in the book about why you can’t plan a date night for you and your man. I promise I’ve been there, too. Who will take the kids, how can we afford it, and I need to clean – …something.
So do I. Let’s leave it.
On the surface, date night may seem like a luxury. An exquisite night out with your man? Who wouldn’t want that? It sounds wonderful, but also expensive. Granted, there are definitely luxury date nights that only celebrities could afford each month. But that is not what I’m writing about, today. I mean the good old fashioned, you + me and the front porch rocker, date night. It’s so important!
We, as couples, have to stop looking at date night as a luxury. The date night is one of the only times that you and your love learn to stay in sync with one another. No cell phones, no laptops, no distractions. Just you, him, eye contact, and discussion.
Sometimes, our relationships can get trampled by the fast-paced world we live in. We start to lose touch with one another. God is our foundation and family is our life, but our relationship is a back bone. Without it being solid, things start to break down. Let go of the guilt, grab a pen and a paper, and let’s get to work. Planning is key!
Who will take the kids? Once I stopped looking at date night as a luxury and started seeing it as a necessity to survival, I began to feel less guilty about having one on one time with Dan. I also loosened up on the idea of letting our little one go to my parents. They were ecstatic, of course. Heaven bless them. If Grandma and Grandpa don’t live down the road, and your family is not in the position to spend $100 on a babysitter (Yowsa), I recommend you plan your date night to be at home and after bedtime (and YES the babies need to have a bedtime).
How will we afford it? If you DID spend all your money on a babysitter, pack a meal and drive somewhere. If you want to go out to dinner, split a meal. Restaurants over size their meal portions like CRAZY. Bonus: Sharing a meal is romantic and spares you the overeating guilt when you get home. You’ll feel lighter and sexier the rest of the night! There are also a ton of ideas on Pinterest for date nights in (cards, cocktails, fondue). What do you have on hand? Get creative. You can find some brilliant ideas posted to my Pinterest board The Dependable Date Night.
We’re fighting. First off, I’m so sorry and I wish I could give you a squeeze. Fights are no fun and have the potential to make date night awkward. But I promise you, it’s even more important! This could be an entire post on its own and I will not give it justice in this tiny paragraph. In short, swallow the fire and set down the weapons for the evening. Commit to each other as a couple to take a time out and focus on the positive.
Excuses out of the way? Pick some ideas for the next couple of months and mix it up! Dan gets to set up date night one Friday, and then I get the next one. One week we might go out and then the next time we stay in!
How often should we plan date nights? That’s something that you, as a couple, should decide. What works for you? I would recommend at least once a month. Our magic number is every other Friday. Circle it on the calendar for multiple months out. Lots of circles, star it, maybe add some hearts…
And don’t forget: Keep the cell phones and laptops out of the way! Milk these next couple of hours for all their worth.
So. Did you plan it? Did you do it? I want to hear all about it!!